Are Your Practicing Self- Love and Self-Care?

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In honor of Valentine’s Day 2021 we wanted to share some insight into taking care of yourself. In recent years social media has coined the phrases Self-Care Saturday and Self-Love Sunday. I find it pretty ironic that we need a hashtag as a reminder to take care of ourselves. Welcome to the millennial life. 

Is There a Difference?

A few months ago, I put up a post on Facebook about self-love versus self-care. While majority of people stated self-love was more important, some believed they were one in the same. 

After an interesting Instagram live with Mrs. Trina B of @amourslingeriewear I have come to the conclusion that they are different yet equally important. Watch the live here.

The Breakdown Self-Love and Self-Care

First off let’s break down the terms. Self-care is usually what we do to pamper ourselves. Whether it’s a manicure, pedicure, or a facial self care is usually seen in the outside. On the other hand self-love is giving yourself the necessary attention to get to know yourself. Moreover, we need self-love to become aligned, awakened and aware.

When was the last time you meditated? In addition, how is your prayer life? What is your journaling routine? All these things matter. It starts with self-reflection; doing the inner work to heal and grow. 

Do the Work

Self-love is doing the inner work to learn, heal and grow. While others can’t see the work they will definitely feel it in your presence. You will control your peace in the presence of others. I do believe things like meditation, seeking therapy, and more can fall under both categories. The most important thing is to take care and love on yourself. Self love is not selfish it’s necessary. 


What are you going to do for self-care or self love this week? 

Thank you for reading until the end friend. 

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3 Tips for Creating Powerful Affirmations

There is power in affirmations for purpose- driven millennial. If you want to get any where in life you should be speaking kind and encouraging words to yourself daily. Read on to discover three tips for creating powerful affirmations.

These last few weeks have been amazing. I recently joined Clubhouse to see what all the hype was about. So far, the platform definitely has not disappointed.

First of all, there are rooms about various topics such as, real estate investing, relationships, religion and so much more. However, my favorite rooms are the morning affirmation rooms. Whether sharing your affirmation for the day, a recent win, sharing a goal, or a current struggle it has been a great way to start the week days. There is definitely strength in unity and surrounding yourself with others who want to elevate in life. Perhaps you never been taught about affirmations. Maybe you think talking to yourself doesn’t work. 

Some Have Affirmations All Wrong

However there are some people who are doing it all wrong. The words spoken put them down instead of lifting them up. There is a lack of confidence and enthusiasm when speaking about personal possibilities.

This is why I have created this blog post. Sometimes I hear someone speak in a clubhouse room and I want to reach through the speaker, give them a hug, and show them the power of words. Here are some tips on using positive words to shape your reality. 

Things To Consider about Affirming Words

I am… in the Bible when God uses the word “I am,” he was declaring things and it was that much more powerful.

Saying affirmations can definitely change how you show up in the world. Take some time and think about who you want to become. Then believe, that is who you are. 

Perhaps you can think of affirmations like eating. If you want to get ahead in life or sustain you need to refill to stay nourished.

Where Can You Find Affirmations?

YouTube Affirmation videos

Think of your self.

  • Physically where would you like to be?
  • Financial – think about your money goals.
  • Spiritual- where do you need a lift? 

Three Tips For Creating Affirmations

  1. Powerful

Affirmations should be powerful.

2. Present Tense

3. Personal

Hope this helps! Let me know in the comments or comment under the latest post on instagram– 

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Be happy, healthy and free!

Season of Elevation

The Season Of Elevation

2020 taught us to slow down so we can succeed. Listen to the podcast episode for this post here.

2021 it’s time to Shine. 

Please remember you are a light.

God has given you a gift to share with the world. 

It may be disguised as birthing pains, a current struggle or something that you can’t seem to shake loose. 

When you bounce back, not only will you be better than before- you can help someone on their journey.

Are you Hurting? 

If you are hurting in this season, I urge you to Journal through your journey. 

What is stirring in your spirit? What makes you uneasy? Growth isn’t always easy, but it is possible. Feel the fear and do it anyways.

Guard Your Gates. 

What are you listening to? What are you watching? Is it in alignment with the person you are or which to become? Set limits on activites and people that don’t serve your purpose.

Talk to God

During this season, it is a must to talk to God. Ask him- What is the meaning to this madness? Talk to him as the trusted friend that he is. You won’t regret it.


Get a coach

People often send me dm’s asking what exactly is a life coach? Do I need one?

Be Simply Happy 

Our mantra for this year is to- Be Simply Happy. 🙂 Be grateful for what you have while going after what you want. 

Remember: We provide growth tips to help you take off in the direction of your hopes, dreams, and aspirations.

Let’s talk. Set up a consultation today. Whether your goal is to write a book, or bounce back after a divorce or disappointment. Let’s chat.